Being a mother of teen girls I thought the challenge of answering the unanswered was endless. Least did I realize the answers were untold truth and not an unsolvable puzzle. These constant words from them “liberty is read more in books and not real” “art is not in my blood” "education pattern sucks" “I can’t” “I don’t” “it’s OK” “I hate it” etc. etc… were giving me thoughts on plunging deep into understanding the circumstances.
We speak liberty but hypocrisy takes over and then we justify and twist the facts of liberty to make our conscience happy. Shouldn’t we think of liberty as a vast segment for our teens to understand? Ideally we shouldn’t use words or phrases that may give them a string to cling on to negative thoughts. When we actually mean no harm.
Success is not all about perfection, let us succumb to that truth. Let our children make mistakes, fall and raise so that the unanswered get self realized. Threatening them of social problems, comparing them to siblings or friends of same age and many more parameters only make our child distant, if not in space I am sure they detach themselves mentally & morally.
Let us agree that teachers also make mistakes and friends not all times are helpful. I don’t suggest abusing any relationship or guidance, but let the child feel confident that YOU will remain at all times. Nothing comes out of force, but several things can be achieved through tasks, be a task master to your child and not a watch dog!
I often said this “I see you living my dream”, I now feel it’s more a threat to my adolescent than an emotion I genuinely expressed. It is devastating to see them give up, it is extremely hard to accept failure, lets leave the reasons behind... Let them learn to enjoy failures too, let us not only celebrate their success, let us learn to celebrate them!
